Relationships, Let's take a look...

Relationships, an interesting thing they are, one minute they are solid and the next not so much. Relationships and where they are truly headed actually intrigues me. I have learned that relationships are not easy and to make them work takes hard work on both parties involved. It takes you to take a step back and look at yourself and say “do I want this to work and is it really worth my time?” If the answer is inevitably ‘YES” then you need to step your game up and put A LOT more effort in it to make it successful. Get rid of the outside influences that may cause you to stray because those outside influences will not be there when you decide to take the leap. Don’t leave your 80% to get something that’s only worth 20% you will be disappointed. If the answer is ‘NO” then do you both a favor and fall back and make room for the next. But if you choose the latter, don’t hold on to your “woulda, shoulda, could and don’t want no one else to have what you let go...” So ladies and gents take heed to my advice if you wish. It makes sense when you say it to your self.

Check out the video link below on Marriage (which is typically the next step in a successful relationship), what do you think...

Lemons are Positive!!

The old saying is that “When life gives you lemons you make lemonade”. So how do we apply this thought provoking phrase to most people’s lives?

Positive Movement. There is this thing going on around the world it seems well, at least on the blogs, and twitter. People are obsessed with taking the energy from our new president and invoke change and positivity through their lives. I believe it all started with the phrase above. So, in thinking whether life is fair or if you were dealt a bad had in life. There are two things for sure. There will always be someone better than you, in a better situation and that person will always stay positive. However, there is also someone whom was dealt a worse hand in a worse situation then you but somehow they stay positive. So why is it that you can’t?

In every situation that I have been in recently where I have been down and out, I found that staying positive and thinking that things are not that bad I always seem to come out stronger. Now whether that is because of a divine intervention or because I “Choose” to be positive is up for discussion.

Whatever it is and no matter how depressed you are just remembering, lemons are always better with a smile and a little sugar.

Stay Positive and Choose to be happy starting today!

St. Patricks Day...Huh???

What is St. Patrick’s Day all about? Well according to Wikipedia they say it’s... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Patrick's_Day .

After reading that what do you get? Yep I don’t really understand either but all I know is you are suppose to wear green and get drunk.

Nothing too deep or introspective about this blog entry except that I am kind of trying to figure out what it’s all about. Apparently starting drinking at noon and then go to church (since supposedly it is a Catholic holiday), and then they leave mass and go drinking again.

Ahh the luck of the Irish I guess. But the whole drinking and going to mass thing does not seem to make much sense to me.

Anywho, for whatever it is worth, Happy St Patrick’s day I hope you wore your green!!

Smile from a Stranger

Smile from a Stanger

Its funny how you can be feeling down one day and a smile from a stranger can bring you to life.
That was me this morning, just driving along to work not feeling very whole and wanting the day to be over before it could even begin. I looked over as I was reaching for something in my passenger seat. When I looked over the women in the car next to me simply smiled. I wondered why she smiled but maybe it is because she had some joy that she wanted to share and I just happened to be the recipient of her heart warming smile.

So try it one day, try to just smile. For your smile to a stranger could change their whole world.
Thank you stranger for turning my day around with a simple smile.

Reason, Season or a Lifetime

Everyone has gotten the forward one time or another that explains why people come in to your life. Basically it is for a reason a season or a lifetime. Typically I read this forward say "Awwww" about the person whom forwarded it to me initially and never really take the time to analyze it.

Well the time has come and today I received this forward yet again, but this time I actually read and analyzed it. I started thinking about all the associates, friends and of course lovers (both whom broke my heart and I broke theirs), that have come in and out of my life over my lifetime.

I realized that these three analyzations actually have some meaning and carry some depth. Let's anaylze some of the persons (whom shall remain nameless) in my life.

First and foremost their were the friends:

The Best Friends -> I have the friends whom I thought would be my friends forever. The ones from my school years, both elementary and Junior High. Those friends helped keep me honest with me. I can recall back to those days and realize that those were the days where I did not really think of what people thought of me I was just me. I loved all my friends, and they are the ones whom helped me shape my values and morals. They kept me real and fun loving me. They were here for a Reason. Most are no longer a regualar part of my life (due to me moving around so much). However, some I have managed to keep in contact with just to touch base and give me a bit of nostalgia and bring me back to the ground and remember what is important.

The Friends (Associates) --> These were the people whom came in my life by chance, either thorough work, by best friends or by family. These people often were not best friend material however they had a purpose. Some of their purposes I still have not figured out but most are pretty clear cut. They have mostly brought me a more realistic view of what life is and always has been. They were the people that kinda made me open my eyes and realize that life is not always warm cookies and milk (not that I had that but you know what I mean). Life is and alwyas will be what you make of it and you can choose what you want to do with it. Life is not fair and never will be and you have to fight for everything you want out of it. Life is just undetermined until you fill in the painting with color. The people who taught me these things are mostly still around to bring me a dose of reality every now and again but for the most part they were here for a season. And as we all know every year that season comes back around each time different yet always the same.

The Lovers --> These people are a mix. Sometimes they came in to my life for a reason, sometimes a season and if I am lucky a lifetime. The lovers are those people whom intertwine a little bit of everything. A little dose of trueness a dash of reality and a big dose of fairytale love. These people helped me to realize that love is what it is. Most are gone and only one true love is here for a lifetime.

So with that said I hope that next time you get that forward you will read a little more into it and analyze the people in your life. Believe me you may come a cross a true dose of reality.